[ Audible ] The Year AfterAuthor Ashley Warner – Z55z.co

With unflinching honesty and unsinkable spirit, The Year After offers a rare and intimate portrait of trauma Inspired by original journal entries, the daily challenges of recovery from rape at the restless age ofare artfully interwoven with reflections from early childhood and twenty years beyond in the search for understanding so familiar to those who have wrestled with life changing upheaval Now a psychoanalyst, Warner subtly brings a forward looking perspective to the narrative while remaining true to the arduous journey through emotional volatility, interpersonal conflict, and the tasks of criminal prosecution after the rapist is identified in a lineup The result is an empowering memoir about the courage to heal and the promise of peace Ashley Warner has a lot of guts to tell about her rape experience and even , she reported it to police and went through the trial of the rapist In The Year After, she tells in simple language and in short chapters her whole experience from before it happened to twenty years after.She was living in low rent apartment in New York when a man came up behind her as she opened the door She was in shock then and after the attack, she could not breath with the man s hands so tight around her neck Ashley Warner has a lot of guts to tell about her rape experience and even , she reported it to police and went through the trial of the rapist In The Year After, she tells in simple language and in short chapters her whole experience from before it happened to twenty years after.She was living in low rent apartment in New York when a man came up behind her as she opened the door She was in shock then and after the attack, she could not breath with the man s hands so tight around her neck She describes the painful experience and what she was thinking while it happened She went back to her childhood and described her grandparents who she felt so at home with yet her own divorced parents who could not provide the comfort and the support that she wanted so much Some of her friends figured out how to relate to her but it was very difficult to find the comfort and support that she needed She needed to be told that she was not responsible for it My feelings are that our culture hides even the discussion of rape leaving the people who are raped ill prepared for what to do and even how to respond to someone who has been raped This is a book for all women and men It is time to discuss this and learn what to do People should not have to suffer in silence.I received an Advanced Reading copy of this book as a win from FirstReads, with a message from the author but that in no way determined my thoughts or feelings in this review Amazingly written Describes the healing journey of the author Ashely Warner who s now a psychoanalyst and offers hope for those who are in the same boat Indeed, past experiences do not define who we are nevertheless, they may very well have shaped us and made us who we really are now An interesting read especially for those who are interested in psychology and feminism. I received this book for free through a Goodreads Giveaway Being a survivor of sexual abuse, this book hit home It was at times way too much and I physically had to sit it down Other times it was liberating to know what the human body and mind can overcome Five stars for this beautiful woman. It holds you until you are done moving story that shows the deep pain that someone can survive. Ashley s memoir is an honest, authentic account of her expereince and healing after rape This book is an important account by a seasoned, intelligent psychoanalyst A must for therapists and those who have suffered the horror of rape. Remind yourself right now Never judge a book by its cover In the case of The Year After A Memoir 2013 , its looks like its title appear rather bland But inside is a gripping story that might even bring tears to your eyes You see, the author Ashley Warner was raped Her book is an almost day by day account of what happened starting from the moment a stranger forced himself into her apartment to the first year anniversary of her survival It s a rare look into a victim s mind during the Remind yourself right now Never judge a book by its cover In the case of The Year After A Memoir 2013 , its looks like its title appear rather bland But inside is a gripping story that might even bring tears to your eyes You see, the author Ashley Warner was raped Her book is an almost day by day account of what happened starting from the moment a stranger forced himself into her apartment to the first year anniversary of her survival It s a rare look into a victim s mind during the assault and how she slowly manages to put her shambled life back to together.When I began reading, one of the first things I noticed was how much Warner did right Her immediately reported the incident, submitted to a medical examination, and sought the comfort of family and friends In addition, the legal proceedings went rather favorably for her This is not to say that everything was hunky dory Warner was constantly in doubt about her self worth and her actions Did she deserve to be raped Was she wrong in submitting and not physically defending herself Would she ever be able to have a normal relationship again She also suffered financially, tolerated sexual harassment from unsympathetic coworkers, and alienated friends and family who didn t know how to relate to her problem But she somehow she managed, seeking solace in a support group and empowerment in a self defense class And by taking her time, Warner heals She masters up the courage to try new things, pursue a new career, and eventually take ownership over her sexuality.I d recommend The Year After for books clubs and support groups because there s so many discussion possibilities Family and friends are both help and hindrance Rape victims, as shown by the members of Warner s support group, vary in how they cope, especially when it comes to their sexual relationships.Readers may also take notice of Warner s deep seated white guilt issues She gets defensive when questioned about the racial identity of her attacker While she d like to pretend that things like that aren t important, they clearly are necessary for apprehending criminals Race comes up again when she s applying for public assistance She s almost apologetic when a government employee makes an insensitive remark to her It s sad that, as victim of both a rape and of an inefficient bureaucratic system, she perhaps subconsciously takes on the identity of the perpetrator The Year After had some loose ends that were left untied, and a lot of content repetition which is fine for everyday life, but gets a bit tiresome in a book In addition, the author veered away from her year after theme meaning the initial year after when she devoted the last few chapters to the second to the twentieth years after I m not sure why she chose to do that when she s obviously guarded about her current career and personal life These later chapters are disconnected from the rest of the book If there s ever a second edition, I hope the author will consolidate those later years into the Afterward, where vague comments about where she s been since are easily tolerated.If you pick up this book, be forewarned Reading The Year After was like watching people get shot at or beaten up in a documentary film It affected me in profound ways I d put it down for days at a time because it was difficult to face the trauma of both the rape and the aftermath But I don t regret one minute I spent reading it.Disclaimer I received this book as a First Reads giveaway winner on GoodReads.com There was no obligation to write a review This book was beautifully written It felt so real, and so comforting. This is a must read, actually written by an old friend While it feels wrong to call the story of person s personal trauma, despair, grieving and ultimate recovery a page turner, The Year After is one I could not put down Ashley Warner has shared her personal journey in a beautifully written, heart wrenching, candid and sometimes humorous manner that taught this readerthan any textbook could about the emotional destruction of rape Very hard to believe this is her first book Read it. It took me a few days after reading this before I could write this review In my opinion, that s the sign of something truly amazing when you have to take time to process it It s almost like, in reading something like this, your life will never be the same Ashley Warner has done something that took so much bravery, I can t even imagine She s taken her experience, something so terrible, vile, and a million other words such as those, and documented it and turned it into this, the true Year A It took me a few days after reading this before I could write this review In my opinion, that s the sign of something truly amazing when you have to take time to process it It s almost like, in reading something like this, your life will never be the same Ashley Warner has done something that took so much bravery, I can t even imagine She s taken her experience, something so terrible, vile, and a million other words such as those, and documented it and turned it into this, the true Year After You follow her through that first year with, as the synopsis says, unflinching honesty You see as she does her best to move on just going through the motions, finding herself angry at every person but the one who did that most horrible thing to her Yet, you watch her ups and her downs, and ultimately her triumphs I cannot praise this memoir enough, one of the best I ve read in a long while Sometimes there s those books that make you feel like there aren t enough stars in your rating system to describe how beautiful they are Mrs Warner has inspired me so much by writing this, sharing her story This will stay with me for a long while I highly recommend, walking in Ashley s shoes by reading this has certainly given me a new outlook on a lot of things I received this book in exchange for an honest review from the author This, however, in no way affected my thoughts expressed in this review